THE LITTLE RED STRESS BOOK

So many couples bring business talk into the bedroom and it's killing their intimacy.

We talked about this in my last article.

Obviously, I'm not encouraging you to avoid talking about things that stress you out, make you anxious, or need discussion with your partner.

The key is to put this talk in its place.

So where is the proper place?

I'll tell you the quick story of how I came up with this ...

Madison and I were having a beautiful morning. We were meditating, drinking tea, starting the day calm and connected.

But halfway through the meditation, a wave of anxious thoughts, worries, and my overflowing list of to-do's flooded into my head.

It was like someone switched the radio station from classical music to death metal.

I even turned to Madison and opened my mouth to mention what was stressing me out ... then I stopped myself. I didn’t want to interrupt her pristine moment by releasing my anxieties like a swarm of bees into the room!

However, next to my bed I saw an empty journal, my little red notebook. I picked it up and wrote down everything crowding my mind. Just four things were causing all that stress.

After we finished our morning ritual, I found a moment with Madison to work through two of these worries — and resolved the other two with a client.

You see what I did there?

Instead of making the anxiety your partner's problem the moment it pops up … write what's worrying you in your little red stress book.

Give this a try:

Define what you will and won't talk about in your bedroom. You might commit to not planning the day tomorrow, writing your grocery list, or creating the agenda for tomorrow's team meeting. Then close the loop by making space to address the stress at the appropriate time, with the right person.

Let me know how it goes